i have a fear of insecurity so i am really bad at having close relations. But i like someone and do not want that person gone from my life completely neither do i want to have a close relation. How do i convince that fellow?
First of all i think that you are very brave that you have acknowledged you insecurities. Secondly , sometime the fear of getting hurt prevents us from doing many things. I can assure you that that the pain of doing something and failing is better than not doing it and regretting it. At least you tried and the pain will be a lesson to learn and might be a turning point in life too but not doing it because of fear might give you bad feelings for longer period. what i suggest you to do is first know if the fellow has the same feelings about you like you do, if so then communicate and try to explain the things you feel. If your insecurities are extreme then please don’t hesitate to visit someone who can help professionally.